You're not alone | RidersHelpingRiders

Riders from all walks of life, from the top professionals to weekly riders, have experienced bullying on social media. These people have bravely shared their stories with us. Alongside each story we've shared helpful contacts so that if you find yourself thinking: "Me too!" then you're one step closer to getting the support you need.

It goes without saying that you might find some of these stories upsetting, so please, look after yourselves - if you're feeling a bit wobbly or unstable today, perhaps take a look at the links on our support page instead.

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"I was looked down at because I didn't have a flashy horse and I always wore a body protector"

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Oct 28, 2020
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"I was looked down at because I didn't have a flashy horse and I always wore a body protector"

I was mainly a happy hacker for years with a few lessons here and there, and then I decided to join a riding school to learn more

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"If anyone new comes to watch, I still get very nervous and I panic"

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Oct 21, 2020
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"If anyone new comes to watch, I still get very nervous and I panic"

I am 16 years old. I have Autistic Spectrum disorder and Attention Deficit Disorder. I have experienced bullying for most of my riding...

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Let's be kind, and try and love people as much as we love the horses.

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Oct 7, 2020
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Let's be kind, and try and love people as much as we love the horses.

I wanted to leave, but who would want to hire me? I had lost all of my confidence and belief in my own experience.

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"I swore that day I would never, ever let them crush my competitive spirit"

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Sep 2, 2020
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"I swore that day I would never, ever let them crush my competitive spirit"

I wanted to share simply because I think one aspect of bullying often not seen is where it is too close to home.

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"Always honour your gut feeling. If something doesn't feel right - it probably isn't."

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Sep 2, 2020
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"Always honour your gut feeling. If something doesn't feel right - it probably isn't."

We all know bullying exists in our sport in many different guises, from the subtle and consistent variant to the full on strain.

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"Professionalism is a choice of actions and behaviour - as is kindness."

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Sep 2, 2020
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"Professionalism is a choice of actions and behaviour - as is kindness."

It became apparent that the young girl and the professional were bad mouthing me, making phone calls and gossiping.

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Jul 18, 2020
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"She just wouldn't stop."

My young son was the victim of an internet troll. The situation carried on for nearly 3 years until the woman was charged with harrassment.

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"Thank God for my Mum and my little superstar of a horse."

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Jul 9, 2020
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"Thank God for my Mum and my little superstar of a horse."

My story happened many years ago, but I still think of it now. I was a naive 21 yr old working pupil with my own horse.

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"She told me I would be better off dead than alive."

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Jul 5, 2020
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"She told me I would be better off dead than alive."

CONTENT WARNING: SUICIDAL THOUGHTS. I recently moved to a new yard. Initially, people seemed to be friendly and welcoming.

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Jul 5, 2020
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"But what could I do?"

This happened whilst working on a stud farm. It was no surprise due to the size of the stud that there was no shortage of drama.

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Jul 5, 2020
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"Never give up on what you came for."

"They would sit on their mounts at the other side of the arena and laugh at me."

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"We are more than just a couple of cans of dog food."

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Jul 5, 2020
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"We are more than just a couple of cans of dog food."

There’s only so many times you can hear someone say “your horse isn’t worth the bullet” and “Let me know if you wanna borrow my 12 gauge..."

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